“I also presume you have seen the article that was in the NY Times Magazine this past week, a photo essay by a donor-conceived child. The more I've looked at it and the more I've talked to my adult daughter, the more immensely grateful I am for your program and your level of ethics. The kid in this article was so full of angst about his situation- the number of siblings making him feel "mass produced," - the anonymity of it all, and what seemed like a cloud of uncertainty or instability over his whole life because of it. I asked my daughter if she felt - or if she ever sensed from her diblings - angst like this, and she said she never did, and never sensed it from her dibs. I can only attribute that to our being able to assure her that she had control over whether or not [to learn more about the donor at age 18], and also from the beginning being able to tell her that we thought there was a limit of [10 families] that might have kids with the same donor. So it was a known number, and hopefully not too overwhelming. “
--Betsy, a TSBC mom