If I understood Mikki correctly, she was asking for us to post here with specific feedback on our experiences with sperm banks. I worked with TSBC (The Sperm Bank of CA) and highly highly recommend them for a host of reasons. In no particular order...
- They are a non-profit (only one in the country to my knowledge.)
- They've got roots in a feminist health center (tells me that they've got a history of being woman-centered and feminist, both important for me.)
- They have a long standing (even pioneering, I think) donor identity release program (win-win for the child and mom, in my opinion, and jibes w my research pointing to 'the less secrecy the better' for families using donor-conception.)
- They do extensive social research on the well-being of donor-conceived individuals. (I'm glad that my child has the option of getting identifying information about the donor, particularly from these folks who seem to care so much about the donor-conceived children.)
- They are small, and therefore can offer a surprisingly personal interaction during the process (for example, I talked about one of my possible donor choices w a staff member, and it was clear she actually knew who he was, and she passed along on small details that weren't in the short or long profiles, such as general demeanor, quirkiness, etc.)
- Although they are in Berkeley, CA about as far from me as they could be, they're on a street I've actually been on. (Strange, I know, but it was another thing that made me want to use them!)
- They had useful/helpful advice when I wanted it (on website, in written materials, on phone.)
- They have an unusually low family limit for each donor, thereby greatly reducing the number of half siblings my child has.
- They were completely and swiftly honest when snafus happened. (My first, and agonizingly/obsessively deliberated-over, donor choice turned out to have the special distinction of being only the second donor in their history to be 'taken off the shelves', and the director herself called me to explain the situation, apologize, and make a plan for what to do about it.)
And of course I mostly love TSBC because they helped me become a mom, which has been the greatest joy in my entire life.
Posted April 17, 2011 at 8:59 PM by Chrissy